Basic knowledge in the SM circle

There has always been a lot of debate about "what is the real S/M".

For example, people who like rope art often dismiss people who only use tape and handcuffs; the latter think that the former is a waste of time chasing form.

Another example is that people who like to abuse their hearts think that those who like physical pleasure are too pediatric, and they themselves are criticized as "a kind of illusory nonsense."

Everyone felt that they were the orthodox king of S/M, and they argued endlessly about this. However, the fact is that "sadomasochism" itself has an extremely broad and vague meaning, or "S/M" as a symbol really cannot summarize all behaviors.

Therefore, the debate on "what is the real S/M" itself stems from the perception of different types of errors.

Here I have to learn from a term commonly used in Europe and the United States, BDSM. Europe and the United States, as pioneers in the development of sadomasochism, already have relatively mature classifications and systems. BDSM, as a synthetic concept, is more conceptually precise than "SM". BDSM actually includes three categories: BD, DS, SM.

It can be seen from this that using "S/M" as a synonym is vague and inaccurate and cannot cover all behaviors. BDSM is more in line with a broad concept. Replacing simple S/M with BDSM, and being aware of the different genres, has two important advantages. One is to stop unnecessary debates. People who care about their hearts just like DS, and people who abuse their bodies just like S/M. They are not a category, and they are completely incomparable. Those who love rope art love a kind of art in BD, while those who only use handcuffs and anklets regard them as tools for DS or S/M, without distinction.

BD, which means binding, is called KB by many people in China, but in fact, the original word should be Bondage /& Domination, binding and training. Among all the projects of S/M, only binding can be called art. The primitive, imprisoned and binding technology that makes people return to history shows a kind of deep beauty. In the game, not only pay attention to the rope technique, the beauty and artistry of KB, but also the use of equipment and tools, to a large extent, this project has been sublimated, which is a kind of beauty of the combination of soul and flesh -----  The definition of -KB is the simplest, and there are only 3 functions in summary:

· Psychological suggestion

· Sensory stimulation

· Fixed

That's all, but it has the most tricks and moves, the changes are endless, and it is relatively difficult to master.

DS, the full name is Domination (control, domination) & Submission (controlled, surrender). DS is more inclined to explore the spiritual world in the large scope of BDSM. The so-called self-alignment is a kind of DS. In addition, DS also includes role-playing, such as identity-playing: father-daughter, teacher-student, master-slave, or pet-playing. Most of the pleasure of people who love DS comes from the spirit, not the body. Here, the body is just a tool used to achieve spiritual pleasure. A person in a dominant position will feel pleasure because of a strong sense of control, being dependent and needed, and a person in a dominated position will feel pleasure due to a sense of being controlled, a sense of surrender, a sense of dependence, and a sense of belonging. DS puts more emphasis on the psychological level, focusing on the intimate relationship between the two parties. Personally, I think that this kind of psychological level requires absolute and sufficient trust. Although everyone has been talking about complete trust, even relatives, There are also times of distrust, so DS is an absolutely difficult area in S&M.

SM, the full name is Sadism (sadism) & Masochism (masochism). In contrast to DS, which explores spiritual pleasure, S/M seeks physical sexual pleasure. The sexual pleasure of ordinary people comes from sexual activity, while the sexual pleasure of sadism and masochism comes from sexual activity, pain, humiliation, torture. What S&M pays attention to is to defy the will, while DS is to obey the will. To put it simply, for example, the dominated person in DS generates psychological pleasure from obeying the master, while the masochist in S/M generates physical pleasure from being forced to perform specific behaviors by the sadist.

Daluse thinks that debating what is "real BDSM" is as absurd as debating what food is real food. After all, it has many branches, and choosing fruits, vegetables, and meat is just a matter of personal preference. People who prefer meat can't justify people who prefer vegetables wrong, after all everyone has their own preferences and choices. Second, if you clearly understand the different classifications, you will understand your preferences more clearly, which can help you find a more suitable playmate.